THE IT GIRL RULE BOOK 📖

The first 5 rules on IT girl etiquette and how to be a good addition to the sister circle as well as a better friend.

In a city like New York, the infamous concrete jungle represents just that. A complex ecosystem where some of the world’s most fierce and viciously beautiful creatures roam free. But every functional system needs some concrete rules to keep everyone and everyone’s mental wellbeing safe. We all know that running the streets in New York wearing a certain ensemble can garner you more attention than you may intend on receiving. Or, certain behavior at a house party can dull the vibe way fast. For the past year, I have been rambling to my group of friends who I refer to as my personal sister circle. We all have a sister circle. It’s the group of people who you tell about the new hip huggers you just got, or the cute boy who hit on you in the supermarket. These people are so important because they are the people that care about you the most. With that being said, the most important task of the sister circle is for you all as a unit to decide that you and your circle need to keep everyone feeling respected and safe. That’s why I came up with the idea of the IT girl rule book. A list of rules that every hottie and/or certified IT girl should follow in order to be a better friend to your fellow IT girls. Disclaimer: This is all in lighthearted girlie pop fun. But if you relate, you relate.. duh. This list is always growing, and I will do new posts adding on to the list as time passes. But let’s start with the first 5

IT GIRL RULE #1

Never let stinky boys come before your home girl

We are all adults here, and your friends should understand that life gets busy. And you should be giving your significant other their love and affection but your friends matter just as much. Try your best to split up your time between your man and your friends. You are a popular hottie who’s in demand. Even if you just FaceTime your besties, make sure you are putting in the effort to show them that you still care about them and their feelings.

IT GIRL RULE #2

When encountering a fellow IT girl on the street that you don’t know whatever you do, don’t stare. It’s disrespectful.

You never know what someone’s current mental state is. If you are gawking at someone, it’s very easy for that person to misinterpret that stare to be a negative one. If someone has caught your eye, you are better off just giving them the compliment and keep pushing. Because staring causes so much unnecessary anxiety to the other person.

IT GIRL RULE #3

If are not a good listener you are not a certified bestie.

We all have a story and all we want is to be heard and have people to relate to. I think they call it human nature lol. However, how can you expect your girls to care about what you have to complain about if you don’t care what they have to complain about? I mean it’s not rocket science. Listen to what your friends have to say. Be attentive, be alert. And most importantly be genuine. Give advice if needed and provide them with feedback. In simple terms treat your girls the way you want to be treated. Simple

IT GIRL RULE #4

When I ask you to be honest, BE HONEST

Now I’m not saying to roast your homie when they are looking confused. But there is totally a way to be nice with constructive criticism that gets the point across in an appropriately respectful manner.

IT GIRL RULE #5

When someone in the circle needs an apology, respect their feelings and apologize, duh

No one is perfect and we can all slip up and say something mean at times that might offend one of your friends. If said It girl express to you that something you said hurt their feelings, acknowledge it, understand that you made a mistake, and apologize, so the rest of the circle can move on. Your friends feelings should be important to you so if you mess up, fess up.

more rules coming soon <3 xoxo dessy