DO NOT OVERSIMPLIFY YOUR TRUTH !

Disappointments of life what to do ?

When life is rewarding you with your heart's most coveted desires it can be easy to mistake those blessings and rewards for your life’s true purpose. As I age, I feel like the universe is constantly giving me real 3D examples - to say the least - on what truly brings happiness in this lifetime, what is a genuine feeling of joy, and what is giving me a temporary spike of excitement that I am misconstruing for what makes me truly happy. But what happens when for example, the new Marc Jacobs or a call from the guy you are currently seeing is what is indeed making you happy? Then what? How do we express ourselves comfortably without coming off needy, materialistic, or worse unrelatable? 😬

First off, you have to be honest with yourself. I find that individuals who are not honest with themselves tend to fall into the “projecting their problems and insecurities onto others” category, which is so not in the IT girl rule book. Some thoughts and ideas and feelings are too fragile to share with others. In my opinion, that’s just fine, not everyone can handle your truth. Some feelings and emotions should be personal and just for you. Express those feelings and thoughts out loud in a safe space to have the chance to verbally hear how u physically feel. That honesty will give you the clarity to see the truth that u are subconsciously aware of but you simultaneously allow to be overshadowed by the dramatics of your current situation. Deep down you know that your current emotions are temporary and that everything is going to be fine down the road. Yet you still have this metaphorical cloud over your head.

The idea of what is disappointing varies from person to person. But we all know the feeling of discomfort that disappointment can cast within us. Something I have learned is that you have got to just allow your body to feel the emotion to make the necessary actions to move forward. For us optimists out there, we tend to suppress negative emotions and feelings which only causes them to return later with better ammo. Save yourself the inevitable explosion and get it over with now. If you want to be sad, put on your sad tunes and lie in bed for a few hours. If you want to cry out of frustration over the guy you are currently seeing’s behavior or attitude because you are upset over him, cry. It is okay. If you are pissed off you didn’t get anything from the Marc Jacobs archival sale, be pissed off for that moment. Now I will admit the Marc Jacobs example is a biased one but y’all get my point. However, no matter how small or big, your emotions matter. Not just the good ones, but the uncomfortable ones as well. If I can leave you with anything, I want to say this. At some point, you're going to have to accept the situation and move on. You can only pout and bitch for so long until it becomes self-destructive. That’s where finding what truly brings joy to your life comes into play. Because If we simply focused on our desires to make ourselves happy we would be really out of luck :/ for obvious reasons.

If you are currently dealing with disappointment take this time to think about the small things that bring you joy and take action in those endeavors. Put on your favorite playlist and dance around in your underwear, give the elders in your family a call, and make their day. If u are feeling joyless make some! Spread it to others you care about and love to feel something positive within yourself. Find something to make u giggle and that will put a smile on that beautiful face.

Now to be real, duh, this is all easier said than done. But what else do you have to lose? Some days are going to be easier than others but you will come out on top if you remember your truth! All you can do is live in the present. Life will be difficult, life is upsetting, disappointing, and heartbreaking all that is very true. That’s why it’s up to you to persevere and push through. I’m coming to the conclusion that life doesn’t get easier but if you apply the right aspects to your life you will find that it does get easier to jump over or find a way around those difficult life hurdles that life loves to throw in our path.

Remember you are your own joy

love dessy xoxo