LET IT GO ? BUT IT HURTS SO BAD :( handling relationships in the city

If the final weeks of summer have taught me anything, it’s that people have free will. It’s something that we don’t talk about enough. The way I see it is that no matter how aligned the stars may be between you and a certain someone if they don’t see the alignment and all the pretty glittery stars if they aren’t on board, sister girl, it’s not going to work. Let's get these tears out now so we can get back to our high vibrations. I feel like us saps, hopeless romantics if you dare, are not just crying out of frustration but more so the disappointment in the potential we see in people. In a dating world where we don’t want anything to be that deep, here we are in a situation that is that deep. Now what? When it comes to relationships, it's all about give and take. If your significant other is showing you that you all are incomparable basically laying it all on the table that they don’t care as much as you do. But you keep giving them chance after chance. There comes the point when enough is enough. The over-forgiveness game is not a favorite amongst us hotties.

Now, this is the real world and things happen. And there are some warranted situations that one can overlook. But my point is - you will know when enough is enough. Suppose you are going through something that is less than favorable with your man, lady friend, or significant other. My advice would be to just start crying and have an emotional moment in your room while Sade serenades you with her sweet words of love and existence. Acceptance can’t come until you express that deep cut of disappointment. Get it all out, sister. Call your mom for support, and converse with your sister circle of close friends! Ask them for a bit of guidance. Go on a walk and listen to sad tunes like it’s all a part of the “scenes” storyline, whatever you see fit in order to express that sadness. Accepting the fact that your new Prince Charming - the one who has all the potential - still at the end of the day has free will. This is not the most desirable situation to be in but it teaches us that relationships are more than cute photos and the “potential” to say the least. A relationship is a partnership where someone who digs you meets you halfway. Simply put, it’s not enough to just see the potential they need to take action in that perceived potential. Be free, butterfly. Dating is unfair, disappointing, and at times soul-crushing. And maybe it’s just not the season for love :/ bummer. However, the many other avenues life has to offer you are what you should now be putting your focus into. Drop the dead weight and continue to grow. View this as a pivotal metamorphosis. Have patience and always remember you are the source for your joy.

Xoxo Dessy