DATING FEVER

So it’s officially summer time, the parks are always entertaining and the ice cream man has come out of hiding. Now, everyday you are trying to pick an outfit that is cute yet functional for 90 degree weather. In New York especially something wacky happens when the temperatures rise. It’s as if your hormones and emotions rise with the climbing temperatures. We all know dating in this day and age can be very testing. But what happens when your dating life starts to pick up? Making connections with people can be hard enough. But when you add hugs, kisses, movie dates, and quality time to those relationships, you enter an entire different ball game. Let’s say you have gone on a few dates in the past month, and you find that there is something special about each date, but there’s also something wrong. Finding that special someone is hard. What they say is true, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. Dating in the city can be like American Idol, “WHO WILL WIN MY ATTENTION” and “who gets the most votes from my group of friends” whenever discussing your dating life with them. When you are in your twenties it can feel like this dating cycle is the end all, be all of your life. The type of person you are interested in at this moment could be completely different 10 years down the line. What I will say is that these early years of dating are extremely important, because speaking from personal experience they help you understand what you do and don’t like in relationships, casual or long term. You find out what you will and will not put up with when you are dating around and exploring your options. Important yes! But not the end of the world. I know that may sound a bit contradictory. But honestly if all of your friends are out dating and you happen to be the one at home on a Saturday, don’t look at it as anything wrong with you or your sparkle. Look at it as the time where you need to focus on you and your inner thoughts and feelings. This time alone is meant to show you something. Now I don’t know what that something is, you may not even know for a while. Everyone’s story is different. But trust everything will work it’s self out if you don’t try and control your life, and let life guide and control you. So when you do get back out there into the dating scene, all that time alone will have you equipped with the tools you need to weed out the wrong people. You will be able to communicate with your future partners better, because you know your self and what you want and how to express that verbally. Much love my beautiful people until next time

love Dessy <3